Actually, it’s way, way better than sliced bread. Sure, sliced bread is convenient – I mean, in my 24 years I’ve never mastered the art of cutting an even slice of bread from a full loaf. One side is always nearly see-through thin, and the other side is so thick I can’t even take a bite out of it (seriously – is there a blonde-proof method for this?) – convenient, but not a phenomenon.
Alas, I digress…
I had a torturous, uncomfortable, exhausting weekend. Thirteen hours daily, Friday through to Sunday. I was seriously irritated through 95% of it. And today I feel fantastic. I usually feel fantastic, but today I woke up feeling light[i]. For three days I sat through serious drama, heartbreaking tears, asylum-style wailing, and genuine laughter. I talked to strangers – some more dramatic (read: weird) than others. I was deprived of music, and sleep. (Six hours a night just doesn’t even count.) I sat through definitions, theories and experiences. I sat through being scared of everyone in Ontario. I sat through thinking everyone around me was insane. I sat through doodling a name in hearts[ii]. I sat through getting in trouble for doodling a name in hearts. I sat through my own reflections and thoughts. Mostly I sat.
And then it came to me. It dawned on me. It was kind of like waking up on Sunday morning in a momentary panic, and then remembering it’s Sunday, as you roll over and drift back into a sweet, slow Sunday morning sleep[iii]. You knew you knew it in the back of your mind, and in your gut – you just needed a moment to realize it. And it almost makes the Sunday morning sleep even better. Your entire body relaxes, your mind is clear. In that now, everything is perfect – regardless of the day before.
That’s what it was like – the moment when things clicked. I let go of all my stories. I let myself give up on being right. I let go of things that had happened, and of things that were going to tell the future. Why? Because it’s all so completely ridiculous and silly. And none of it matters. I was told – countless times, that no matter what, I was going to end up in the same hole/drawer/urn as the person sitting next to me (Don – a 52 year-old CEO, who up until that moment had been counting down the days to his retirement so that he could really start living.) It was a funny moment. Don and I looked at one another and even though it might sound morbid, we both realized it was true. It wasn’t morbid at all. It was strangely freeing. Don later turned to me and told me that his answer to that persistent, ‘cute,’ childhood question had always been, “when I grow up I want to have fun.” He promised me he would stop waiting to have fun. It was inspiring.
“Your life is the little dash between the date of your birth and the date of your death.”
I want mine to be a squiggly line.
Today, I didn’t complain about getting up early… although I still hit snooze a few times (hey, I still heart sleep!). I told my family I loved them before I walked out the door. I drove to work car-dancing all the way, more openly than I usually do. I said what I felt. And I even got a smile from the old man who “hikes” the heart of suburbia with a pound puppy attached to his hat. I’ve always known what I want to create in my life – I just didn’t know it’d be this easy.
The best thing since sliced bread is this. And all the other stuff – doesn’t matter. It’s just stuff.
[i] Not in the weight sense. Thirty-nine hours of chair sitting paired with a 3-day pasta/sandwich/cookie diet doesn’t really allow for that.
[ii] No point denying it. It’s most definitely a doodling crush.
[iii] Please reference Banana Pancakes for the musical definition of waking up slow. Jack gets exactly what I mean.